An interesting scientific study to discuss. Love it. Maybe you should not directly share it with your boss, but at least it should make you feel better about an important HSM trait that you probably find within yourself. I sure know I find myself in it all the time. And I used to feel really bad about it, and of course it has also lead to confusion with other people. Daydreaming, or in other terms, “a wandering mind”, can actually cause you to become more creative so a new study reveals. And moreover, in opposition to a common myth that daydreaming means the mind is totally passive, the brain regions are actually very much activated during this period. For more insights on the study, may I refer you directly to the report by Scott Kaufman at Psychology Today. What I also love about this study is that in the office, it shows again that we HSM are actually not a waste of company money during meetings or conversations, just because it seems that we are absent from time to time. Moreover, another implication that I would personally draw is if HSM are more often found to be in daydreaming than other men, and more daydreaming leads to more creativity, then it would logically follow, that HSM are actually more creative employee than the average non-HSM employee. In the eyes of your employer, this could actually turn you into a more valuable and appreciated asset. And in your own eyes it could be another important step to starting to value your HSM traits and accepting it as a part of you.
My Experience with Daydreaming 1. Just because I am not talking does not mean I am not listening. 2. The right reply might come to me hours after the question has been asked.
1. Just because I am not talking does not mean I am not listening. Many times in a meeting, just because I say less than the other people, I will be accused of not listening or having lost track. Well, honestly sometimes that is the case, but most of the time it is not. I am just reflecting more on what is being said and processing the information along with what I would have to say. Sometimes, yes I am drifting along with the last sentence that has been said and quietly exit the conversation to dwell deeper on one specific thought. But, that does not mean I may not return in time to the meeting that is going on. And moreover, hours later I find that I actually perceived and noticed what has been said. 2. The right reply might come to me hours after the question has been asked. Hours later I might find myself suddenly, when doing another activity entirely, popping out the right reply to hard question that I have been asked hours before. Funnily, the insights are often the final breakthrough needed to accomplish the solution to a hard problem. Yet, the answer does not come programmed at a specific moment. Just like many great things in life, you will just have to wait for it and trust that it will come along in its due time. ** The important thing is not to pressure yourself just because you find your thoughts drifting now and then. It is normal that you might dwell deeper on something that hit you at a specific moment as well as your mind tuning out in certain moments, probably because you are overstimulated at that specific moment. And also not feel bad when you are being accused of daydreaming or slipping along. Maybe explain that you are just deeper reflecting on what has just been said. If you continuously find yourself being accused of this and it makes you feel really bad, you might have to consider going somewhere else where you are “celebrated, not just tolerated”. – Chrisi Brand